“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together” Marilyn Monroe
Although painful, divorce can be a chance to experience a brand new life with many hidden opportunities. Sometimes couples don’t realize just how miserable their lives have become because the misery has gone on far too long. In this case, their divorce can be a very good thing that offers many gifts for growth and happiness. The new possibilities are sometimes hidden from view but the positive challenges that lay before them are actually fantastic chances to become the person you were always meant to be. Divorce can be a positive experience for children as well, provided the parents remain good friends. For children, having two parents who care about the family, during and after the divorce, provides a sense of security that the world is safe around them.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be that person you were before you married your spouse? Wouldn’t it be a relief to have a life with no back and forth bickering about problems, such as finances, power struggles, or blame? After divorce, you have a new chance to be peaceful and joyful to yourself, and all those around you, as you embrace letting go of all that pent up anger and negativity.
With divorce comes personal freedom. New opportunities open up to socialize, to try new things, and pursue long forgotten dreams. It provides a chance to practice and develop your skills and look ahead to a new and stimulating life.
By remaining friends, you can enjoy the times your kids are with your ex during shared visitation. Use this time to pamper yourself, read a book, catch up with friends, and do things that make you feel good about yourself. These are moments that married people do not get – downtime to do what makes you happy, to think positive, optimistically and constructively. Take a vacation. If you approach your divorce in a positive way, everyone around you will notice your optimism, especially your ex and your children, and that positive energy will become contagious and bring goodness and joy back to you.