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cheating spouseDo you have a cheating spouse? Statistically speaking, it is not impossible. And the times, they are a-changin’. Adultery seems to be more socially acceptable today than in previous generations. The question for you is, what are you going to do now? If divorce is on the horizon, the time to seek legal assistance from an experienced divorce attorney is now.

Cheating Spouse – Statistics

Infidelity impacts more marriages than you might think:

  • Studies show that the label of cheating spouse could be applied to 22% of married men and 14% of married women at least once during their time together;
  • Nearly 40% of  cheating spouses say their flings occurred on business trips;
  • 36% of cheating spouses report to having affairs with co-workers;
  • Almost half of men say they knew what their cheating spouse was doing, while the same is true for just about one-third of women;
  • Women who suspect their husband’s are cheating are correct 85% of the time, while men are correct about half of the time.

What Does a Cheating Spouse Mean for Your Marriage?

In this country, nearly 20% of divorces that occur cite infidelity as the primary reason for the split. If your marriage is doomed to be a statistic, you should know that California is a community property and a no-fault state. This means that any marital property must be equally divided. Except for cases of incurable insanity, the only other grounds for divorce are irreconcilable differences. Therefore, the court will not consider any evidence you may have of adultery, no matter how salacious or despicable. In other words, just because your spouse is a cur, you will not be given extra consideration in the financial or property settlement. There are, however, a few ways in which you may benefit.

What the Judge may Consider

If your spouse’s actions impacted the marital estate, the judge may consider those impacts.  For instance, if funds belonging to both of you were used to buy gifts, housing, or other items for a lover, it is possible that those funds may be reimbursed to the estate prior to splitting it in half.

Also, if the cheating spouse moves in with this partner during, or shortly after the divorce, it could impact the need for that spouse to receive spousal support, since those payments are determined based on financial need.

Cheating Spouse and Child Custody

While adultery can have a devastating impact on families, it will not be a factor in determining child custody or visitation except in rare circumstances when neglect or abuse of a child can be linked to the affair itself. Continue reading →

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infidelityThe infidelity statistics in this country are astounding. If you are married to someone who does not know the meaning of fidelity, you are not alone. If you are married to a serial cheater, you have probably considered divorce. Should you get to the point that the relationship is just not worth it anymore, an experienced divorce attorney can help.

Infidelity by the Numbers

More people surveyed reported infidelity than many of us would imagine. Consider the 2017 statistics:

  • One or both partners report to infidelity in over 30% of marriages;
  • Nearly ¼ of men admit to infidelity;
  • Women confess to cheating at a rate of 14%;
  • More than one-third of cheaters say the affair was with someone at work;
  • Almost one-fifth of cheaters say it happened with an in-law;
  • Over one-third of cheating occurs on business trips;
  • One in 10 affairs start with an online experience;
  • Women report revenge as a motive for affairs 14% of the time.
  • After cheating once, cheaters are 350% more likely to indulge again than those who have never cheated;
  • Affairs most often occur two years into a marriage.

How to Get Out of the Marriage

Experts have several suggestions as to how to proceed once you have made up your mind to leave your cheating spouse. Consider the following:

  • Make a confidential appointment with a divorce attorney, and keep it to yourself. If your spouse suspects that you are considering divorce, it may prompt some scurrying to hide evidence of the affair or of assets. Keep your plans close to the vest.
  • Do not fool yourself into believing your spouse will be fair and rational in this process. Protect yourself, your assets, your children, and everything else. Assume the worst. It will will be much better to be pleasantly surprised than to be devastatingly betrayed.
  • Move your half of any liquid assets into your own private account. California is a community property state, meaning that you are entitled to your half. Cheaters generally have secret money hidden somewhere, so do some sleuthing or hire someone to do it for you.
  • Do not allow yourself to be manipulated. If you have decided to split, you have some good reasons, right? There is no point in complaining about how hurt you are and giving your spouse the chance to make promises that will not be kept. Your spouse does not care about you, clearly.  Do not present any opportunities for your soon-to-be ex to exploit any feelings you may have.
  • Believe in yourself and stay focused on getting the life you deserve. You did not come to this decision easily, did you? Things will be tough, but never forget that you deserve a satisfying life. Fight for it.

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