Covid-19 is preventing most of us from doing the things we normally would. If being stuck at home with your loved ones is causing you stress, it does not have to be a sign that your marriage is on the outs. Sociologists claim that there are two inevitable outcomes for couples locked in together with nothing to do — a jump in birth rates, and an increase in the divorce rate. That being said, there are definite strategies you can employ to avoid the latter category.
Give One Another Time to Adjust During This Lockdown Period
The new reality is more than a little unnerving. For individuals who are used to being out and about conquering their worlds, being constrained at home is quite a change. It is not just the daily activity that is going to change; a person’s total outlook and mindset must adjust to the new reality. Instead of thriving in their self-created reality, people are switching to survival mode. The psychology of that means a necessary move toward being more flexible. As you and your partner adapt to the new requirements of your life, patience will be an indelible virtue!
Structure Your Days
With your old routines demolished by the pandemic, it may be essential to create new ones in order to salvage your sanity. While vegging out in front of the television may appeal for a period, eventually it is not going to be enough to keep your mind and emotions functioning as you would prefer. That means figuring out specific activities that will bring you satisfaction, and even joy, during this difficult time. Your schedule should include time for exercise, time to connect with others, time to maintain your home, and, essentially, time to reflect and be alone. Designing a plan that both partners adhere to—with some flexibility, of course, will help your relationship more than you can imagine.
Living in a small space will doubtlessly cause some territory wars at some point, so designating workspaces or relaxation spots may be useful. More essentially, agreeing to “rules of the house” relating to family time will certainly be important.
Above all, it is more important than ever to express your thoughts and feelings honestly now. If you need a break, you need to be able to say so. If you have fears—and you would be crazy not to—being able to discuss them openly can help you to manage them. That being said, expressing resentment or blame is never an effective way to solve problems or build a relationship. Hopefully at this point you have already established expectations as to how to communicate about difficult issues in a fair and positive way. If not, do your best to avoid criticizing in a cruel way. Instead, look for value in your partner and work toward resolutions to difficult issues.
Getting Through Difficult Covid-19 Times
Many couples are able to survive these difficult Covid-19 times and come out stronger together on the other side. Unfortunately, that is not true in all situations. In the wake of the pandemic crisis, we at Beck Law P.C., hope families come through these times successfully. Continue reading →