The infidelity statistics in this country are astounding. If you are married to someone who does not know the meaning of fidelity, you are not alone. If you are married to a serial cheater, you have probably considered divorce. Should you get to the point that the relationship is just not worth it anymore, an experienced divorce attorney can help.
Infidelity by the Numbers
More people surveyed reported infidelity than many of us would imagine. Consider the 2017 statistics:
- One or both partners report to infidelity in over 30% of marriages;
- Nearly ¼ of men admit to infidelity;
- Women confess to cheating at a rate of 14%;
- More than one-third of cheaters say the affair was with someone at work;
- Almost one-fifth of cheaters say it happened with an in-law;
- Over one-third of cheating occurs on business trips;
- One in 10 affairs start with an online experience;
- Women report revenge as a motive for affairs 14% of the time.
- After cheating once, cheaters are 350% more likely to indulge again than those who have never cheated;
- Affairs most often occur two years into a marriage.
How to Get Out of the Marriage
Experts have several suggestions as to how to proceed once you have made up your mind to leave your cheating spouse. Consider the following:
- Make a confidential appointment with a divorce attorney, and keep it to yourself. If your spouse suspects that you are considering divorce, it may prompt some scurrying to hide evidence of the affair or of assets. Keep your plans close to the vest.
- Do not fool yourself into believing your spouse will be fair and rational in this process. Protect yourself, your assets, your children, and everything else. Assume the worst. It will will be much better to be pleasantly surprised than to be devastatingly betrayed.
- Move your half of any liquid assets into your own private account. California is a community property state, meaning that you are entitled to your half. Cheaters generally have secret money hidden somewhere, so do some sleuthing or hire someone to do it for you.
- Do not allow yourself to be manipulated. If you have decided to split, you have some good reasons, right? There is no point in complaining about how hurt you are and giving your spouse the chance to make promises that will not be kept. Your spouse does not care about you, clearly. Do not present any opportunities for your soon-to-be ex to exploit any feelings you may have.
- Believe in yourself and stay focused on getting the life you deserve. You did not come to this decision easily, did you? Things will be tough, but never forget that you deserve a satisfying life. Fight for it.