Divorce wars can happen when couples divorce. Frayed emotions and angry circumstances can combine to make it tempting to try to play dirty. The fact is, resorting to the nasty games of divorce wars make you look bad and does not necessarily improve the outcomes for you. Instead, go into your divorce with everything on the table. Although you want a divorce attorney who fights aggressively for your interests, underhanded tricks really do not pay off.
Being Open and Honest With Your Attorney and Avoid Divorce Wars
As you prepare for your divorce, it is essential that you are open and honest with your attorney. Particularly when circumstances are strained, you can anticipate that your spouse will attempt to paint you in a bad light. If your lawyer knows everything, preparing for court becomes an exercise of skill. Do not let your attorney be surprised by bombshells lobbed by the other side. Tell the truth about everything and act in a responsible manner:
- If you have sent unpleasant texts or emails, do not fool yourself into thinking that just because you have deleted them, they no longer exist. There is every possibility that they will show up if your spouse thinks it will benefit his or her case.
- If you have assets that you think no one knows about, be aware that the other side will likely have detectives snooping around to see what turns up.
- If you are in possession of assets that you are pretty sure your spouse is going to request, do not sell those items in spite.
- Children are people. Do not degrade your spouse in their presence or try to turn them against your spouse.
- If you are thinking of charging up a load of debt to dump on your spouse, think again.
- Although most people have social media accounts these days, be careful of what you post on yours. Avoid rash, emotional posts that could get you into trouble later.
- If you have a new love interest, do not flaunt it. Keep that person away from your spouse, the courtroom, and any other place that might cause the situation to become enflamed.
After the Divorce
Once your divorce is finalized, make sure you follow the court’s orders. Particularly if there are children involved, remain poised to interact in a civil manner. Now, that may be difficult, especially if your former spouse is reading from a divorce wars playbook. Nonetheless, behave with dignity, and be smart:
- Avoid interactions when you have been drinking or if you are upset.
- Pay child support with a check so you have a record of the transaction.
- Document any issues as they occur in case you wind up back in court at a later date.
- Honor visitation rights, even if support payments are behind. You do not want to be in contempt.
- Encourage kids to have a healthy relationship with your ex and the in-laws. There is no such thing as too much love for a kid.
A Strong Advocate
Divorce wars divorces are filled with resentment and anger are more difficult than most. It is more important than ever that you get through it with your dignity intact, in addition to getting the best possible settlement. At Beck Law P.C., we understand what you are going through, and will advocate for your best interests. Contact us today for a confidential consultation.