Domestic violence is an epidemic in this country that directly impacts roughly 20 people every minute throughout the United States. Studies indicate that holidays and special events that often revolve around alcohol consumption tend to see an escalation in domestic violence episodes, meaning the weeks ahead could prove to be dangerous for many households. If you suspect potential violence is in your future, a good family lawyer may be able to provide some legal options to help keep you safe.
The Nature of Domestic Violence
Domestic violence (DV) involves people who formerly or currently are experiencing intimate relationships with each other. In addition to the physical assaults that leave visible evidence, DV can also involve coercive behavior, bullying, threats, and manipulation. Batterers may engage in any number of behaviors, including:
- Isolation: Keeping the victim away from family members and other support networks, controlling time and movements, criticizing friends and family, and discrediting the victim in social groups such as church or the workplace;
- Economic abuse: Controlling the finances, not allowing earnings to occur, ruining credit ratings;
- Psychological abuse: Verbally attacking vulnerabilities, humiliating, ignoring feelings, stalking, degrading, and other demeaning mind games;
- Sexual abuse: Sexual name-calling, jealousy, forced sex, denying contraception;
- Physical abuse: Locking the abused in or out of the home, spitting, biting, scratching, hitting, shoving, strangling, burning, kicking, or throwing objects at the victim.
When looking at the symptoms of domestic violence, there seems to be one key undercurrent – issues of control.
Do Domestic Violence Incidents Increase on Super Bowl Sunday?
There does appear to be evidence that incidents of domestic violence may surge on Super Bowl Sunday. Some blame it on testosterone-filled rooms and angry fans. Others associate it with high levels of alcohol consumption. Whatever the confluence of factors, we know that DV has the underpinnings of control, and many who study the problem are convinced that this one day of the year poses a particular risk to individuals in unhealthy relationships.
Domestic Violence and Getting a Restraining Order
If you are in a relationship in which you feel controlled by someone else, you may very well be a victim of domestic violence. Studies indicate that disputes about infidelity, chronic substance abuse, and untreated issues related to mental health can all be red flags. Before things get out of control, you should consider getting a restraining order against someone who has violent tendencies.
Do not put yourself and your children at risk by listening to tearful apologies from your abuser or promises for happier times. The fact is that circumstances generally do not improve without significant intervention. Continue reading →